Everyone has a story. These experiences provide the foundation for your belief system. What do you believe in? Do you believe in yourself? Your story will provide the answer to these questions. The chronicle about your life comes from different places, times and events. For some, a basic belief about yourself can be traced back to childhood. For others, your story changed or began during adulthood on account of what has happened to you, what you have been doing, or what you have been hearing. With so many potential sources of influence, only you know where your story came from. Think about it.
However, the origin of your story is not as important as what the story means to you and how it shapes your beliefs. Your life may be propelled by a strong sense of purpose, of strength and of belief in yourself. The resiliency provided by such core values provides a platform for growth. Tony Robbins talks about hardship as if it were a winter season that you just have to get through. If your story propels you, then you will be more likely to grow during the winter season instead of learning to be helpless. Your story can be your guide through hardship.
Or maybe your story confines you to the point that you have become stuck. If you believe that you are not good enough or that nobody loves you or that you will amount to nothing, then I’d say that you are stuck. You are most likely blocked by fear: the fear of uncertainty, the fear of failure, the fear of rejection and/or the fear of pain. This is exactly what happens when someone is diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress, the opposite of which, according to Tony Robbins, is Post Traumatic Growth. His words of advice to anyone who feels helpless is to help somebody else who is worse off then you because that puts things into perspective. That’s good advice that you can grow from.
What if you do not know what your story is? How can you find your story? Four key components foster personal growth: journaling, reading, giving, and taking action. As you grow, your story will evolve and change. If you do not know what your story is, find one. Or if your story is not allowing you to grow, change it. Eventually you can find the belief within you that you can do anything.